put your pants on

put your pants on.

This was advice given by a parent to a man, about his relationship with his wife.

Why? Why do some people find the need to advise their children how to behave in relationships? Why do they belittle their children and their actions when their own marriages are full blown disasters?

This father constantly speaks about his unhappiness in his marriage, all the failed attempts to leave his wife and his ultimate decision to stay as he was the breadwinner and the only one that financially supported the household.

Before we criticize other peoples relationships, maybe it’s time to realize that if it bothers you so much, it’s something that is being mirrored about your own relationship. Take a step back and fix what’s wrong. Don’t project your disappointment in yourself onto another person because you haven’t done the work.

Keep your opinions to yourself, unless you’re asked to contribute them. And even then do so with tact and grace not in an accusatory or defaming manor.

Be a guiding light, not a shooting star.